You’re Not Stupid, You’re Just Lazy

You’re not stupid. Well, you could be. I don’t quite know for sure. But you’re probably not. I’m willing to wager that you’re just ignorant of a few things as a direct result of being lazy. Don’t worry, we all can be lazy and ignorant about things. What you should actually worry about is that you can do something about it, but you’re choosing not to.

You see we live in an age where people are able to get information faster than McDonalds hands you plastic burgers, yet some of us are still too lazy to make any use of it.

Even when we know that we should, and can easily do so.

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Attitude Is Everything

The complexities and struggles of life often cause us to make excuses for ourselves or form a narrative to cushion reality. As a result many of us wrongfully search for short-term fixes or distractions to our problems, or convince ourselves that something will somehow make us happy or fulfil us. More than that many of us rely on these volatile and fleeting things to motivate or push us, but time erodes the emotions that come with them and we soon sink back into old habits.

How exactly do we change if we’re such poor victims of our own programming?

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Artists, Be Rid Of Your Fear Of Judgment

We all want to be liked by others, or perhaps more accurately we’d all like some kind of validation from other people. Whether or not you care much for other people, it’s almost an inherent desire that we want to be noticed. Yet, contradictory to that notion for many is that some are afraid of being noticed, nine times out of ten because there is a fear of being judged or ridiculed by other voices. As a person, let alone an artist, this is a dangerous barrier to not only personal growth, but to expressing yourself freely. And it’s my belief that as an artist you absolutely cannot stand to be afraid of judgment or let the feelings and whims of others dictate your desire to express your art.

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It Only Takes The Support Of One

I’m sure that in your years as a living, breathing human being on planet earth you’d have many a time heard sayings along the lines of “nobody can do it alone” and “everyone needs someone” and so forth. Typically though some people (like myself) can identify as lone wolves, stubbornly tackling problems solo because they believe themselves capable and are determined enough to learn and overcome challenges no matter what. However in matters of the arts that can only get you so far, and in reality you truly do need what other human beings call support if you are to thrive.

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What’s So Wrong About Being Wrong?

If you’ve ever found yourself doing some research into something you knew very little about yet had many unfounded assumptions about, you’d probably stumble upon something quite extraordinary. That being that you’re usually wrong about it. A lot of it. For the sake of argument, let’s say that you always held some assumptions about your religion, but you’ve never quite read your scripture thoroughly or delved much into the history of it. One day you finally do, and discover an ocean of information you didn’t know, as well as realised (hopefully) the many errors of thought you had carried around with you. I’m here to tell you that when something like that happens to you, it’s actually a good thing.

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Why Do We Blame Victims?

Wow, it’s been quite a long time since I last made a post. I suppose it’s been that time of the semester where everything is really busy, and my writing has taken a bit of a backseat to unwinding sessions with games and series. Nevertheless I’ve been toying with a befuddling (to say the least) topic in my head for a while now, and it’s the concept of victim blaming. This is not exactly anything new, but it’s a frustration of mine that I have observed countless times as well as studied formally in psychology, and after doing extended reading on the subject matter I decided to write about it for the purposes of debate.

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Why Instant Gratification Is Dangerous

If you aim to be a self-published author or artist, or to enter any solo venture for that matter, it is important to understand the importance of managing expectations and the concept of reward and gratification. I spoke at length about managing expectations and dealing with demotivation in a previous post, and today I want to build on that by focusing more on the dangers of instant gratification, and teaching (even subconsciously) your brain to expect that. What is instant gratification? Well put simply gratification is that sense of happiness and elation you feel upon winning or reaching a goal or obtaining a desire, and by extension instant gratification is the immediate reward of that feeling. Put in the simplest of terms, expecting instant gratification is basically thinking that if you do something you should see positive results or get a reward for it. This thinking can apply almost anywhere, whether it’s in your job, your personal solo venture, your relationship with your partner or even just your belief structures, and it’s vital to understand the problems it can lead to.

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